Belonging & Healing

I was working in Japan in 1990 when I came across a book - though I can’t remember the title now, it spoke to me deeply. It addressed things I was struggling with but hadn’t yet named or understood. That book became a catalyst, sparking a desire for something more. With no internet or email back then, I wrote to Fr. John Harvey, the founder of Courage, pouring my heart into a letter. Little did I know that this act would set me on a path of healing and discovery.

Life in Japan was isolating at times, and my connection with Fr. Harvey became a lifeline. I communicated with him through long-distance calls, using a telephone card. He supported me spiritually, offering wisdom and encouragement, even though I had no real understanding of catechism or spiritual guidance at the time. I vividly remember listening to conference tapes that Fr. Harvey mailed me. I’d play these cassette tapes while walking or at home, taking in the words that spoke of hope, faith, and transformation. These tapes, along with newsletters sent by post, became my companions.

Fr. Harvey often emphasized the dignity and freedom of every individual. He taught that while you can’t force someone to become “straight”, you can help them discover the deeper truths of their identity and vocation as children of God. For me, this was a profound realization - one that reshaped how I viewed myself and others.

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The above paragraphs are excerpts from a longer reflection entitled Belonging & Healing: The Birth of Courage Philippines, one of many entries in a self-published book containing faith stories and testimonies in honor of the 30th Anniversary of Courage in the Philippines, celebrated in August 2025. These excerpts are printed here with permission of the author.